Home Birth FAQs for partners
All the facts, stats, and practicalities you need to know about home birth.
Why would anyone have a home birth when we have all these wonderful modern hospitals with their machines that go ping? Planning a home birth can seem daunting when our culture is so convinced that hospitals are safer. It can be worrying when home birth is mentioned. Or you could be totally behind the idea but just want to get clued up to fend off the nay-sayers.
Home birth is a sensible option. Find out why.
1. The safety stats
2. Transfer rates and reasons
3. Midwife's kit
4. Emergencies - what could happen and how would it be dealt with.
5. What you need to prepare.
6. Common hurdles and hiccups
7. What happens on the day.
8. What other dads say about home birth.
In this course there is a 90 min video plus documents and useful links so you can check I'm not making all this up!
Home birth is great for dads. After our first home birth with our second baby my husband said he'd wished we'd had the first at home. Here's a video of the comedian Jim Gaffigan talking about home birth (about 1.30 mins in - though it's all hilarious, and true!).
I am an antenatal teacher and doula (paid birth companion). I have had four of my five babies at home.
Like you, I am independent, educated woman who likes to make her own mind up I like facts and logic, which is why I like to go behind the guidelines and recommendations, to look at the research and get a better understanding. I think everybody makes different choices with the same information because we all bring the perspective of our experience and upbringing.
I come from a big family. The eldest of four and the fourth of twenty-five cousins, I grew up surrounded by babies, birth and breastfeeding. But all that experience of rocking babies and changing nappies didn't prepare me for the demands of being a first time mum. I wish I'd known what I know now, I'd have told myself not to worry that she would only sleep on me; that cuddling her was growing her brain; that her waking frequently was not a sign that I was doing things wrong and that taking her into my bed, in a safe way, would help us all; that spending the day with my mummy friends was time well spent; that my mental health was important; that slings could be used indoors too! And I wish I'd done baby massage.
I have five children (aged 6-20). One born in hospital and four at home. I used water for pain relief with all of them. Only the fourth was born in the pool. The last one was meant to be, but I got out of the pool to go to the loo and didn't have time to get back in!
The more I learn and read about giving birth, about caring for babies and raising children, the more I understand how they flow into and effect one another. Being calm, confident and in control is how I will help you to start your parenting journey.
I am an antenatal teacher, pregnancy relaxation teacher, trainee doula, baby massage teacher, baby wearing adviser, parenting practitioner and breastfeeding peer supporter. I'm also a home birthing, co-sleeping, washable nappy using, baby wearing, full term breastfeeding, gentle parenting mama. I have stepped off the standard path and found my own way ~ and I'd like to help you find yours.
I have over 14 years’ experience supporting women and couples prepare for birth. Helping them find their own path and how to get it. I get such a kick from witnessing women grow in confidence, take control and go their own way - whether it's deciding to have a vbac or a repeat caesarean. It is your body, your baby, your choice. You have options; you have rights. Your baby only gets this one birth, and it is worth a bit of determination. I have worked with over a hundred women who had a difficult birth and were looking for a better experience. Almost everyone of them said I'm going to be more bolshy this time around. In my experience the health professionals are very happy to accommodate individual plans ~ they just get caught up doing what they are used to. Everything is your choice. Personally and through the woman I have supported, I have experience of changing midwife, changing consultant, declining consultant led care, declining treatment/monitoring/intervention/induction, and home birth with higher risk (vbac, twins).