My body, my baby
Making decisions and being heard in pregnancy & birth
Am I allowed ....
I've been told I have to ....
My midwife has said I can't ....
I don't want to ..., do I have a choice, can I decline?
How the birth goes has an impact on you for a lifetime. It can set you for a positive and confident start as a parent, or it can leave you traumatised and suffering physically and mentally.
Research has shown that it is not the amount of intervention that leads to a negative birth experience, but the amount of control a woman feels, and how she was treated.
Indeed a woman can have every intervention under the sun and feel it was a positive birth, because at every point she was informed and felt in control. She was given options and treated with respect. Equally a woman can have a seemingly straightforward birth and it be traumatic.
The maternity system in the UK is better than most countries in respecting women's rights of autonomy over her body. In the UK these rights are enshrined in law.
However we have a very paternalistic system that forgets this sometimes. Almost every doctor and midwife I have ever met in my two decades of supporting women and their partners have been very supportive and positive; they just sometimes forget, in the busy-ness of their worklife, the basics.
They can caught up in routine and policies. But hospital policies are not your policies. Whilst the midwife may be obliged to follow them, you are not.
This workshop goes through your basic rights and how to work with them in an assertive but not aggressive way.
You do not need to fight. Simply state your position.
This workshop covers how to phrase your words, and who to speak to to get results.
It will also give you confidence.
You are, after all, the parent(s) and you will be making decisions for your son or daughter for the next eighteen years.
I am an antenatal teacher and doula working with women and couples as they prepare to meet their baby.
I help pregnant people and new parents find and follow their own path to being Chilled Mamas and Papas.
I am a woman who likes to make her own mind up. I like facts and logic, which is why I like to go behind the guidelines and recommendations, to look at the research and get a better understanding. I will go off the beaten path if that is right for me and my family. I home educate my two youngest. I think everybody makes different choices with the same information because we all bring the perspective of our experience and upbringing.
I am a doula, an antenatal teacher, pregnancy relaxation teacher, baby massage teacher, baby wearing adviser, parenting practitioner and ex-breastfeeding peer supporter.
I'm also a home birthing, co-sleeping, washable nappy using, baby wearing, full term breastfeeding, gentle parenting, autism mama. I have stepped off the standard path and found my own way ~ and I'd like to help you find yours.
I live in Bedfordshire. I love walking in the woods, labyrinths, and snuggling up on the sofa to watch films and tv series. I am a tea lover, a beach lover, and chocolate lover. I have five children, aged 10, 16, 18, 23, & 25. Only three still live at home.